Blogger, Web personals & Reality
I have recently received a message on one of my many profiles created on the gay websites which simply says: "I like your blog. Would you like to meet up?" (not quoted verbatim cos I can't remember the exact words used).
Which, to me, is pretty scary...
First of all. My writing skill is far from fantastic (sharddup! i know!).
I have NEVER won any international writing awards or anything of that sort (you don't say!). Blogging is just something I like to do once in a while since I am serving my notice now and sometimes I am too bored in the office. My topics are also pretty random and plain, it doesn't:
(1) create controversies (nothing about coming out, coming in term with my sexuality, or turning straight); and
(2) record every damn thing I do every damn day (e.g. today, I have a good hair day, then I went to Mid Valley, then I meet 2 cute guys and i saw 3 pairs of nice shoes, nice shoes are good, they are pretty and they make me happy. good hair day + nice shoes = fabulous day. yay! then i meet up some frens, then we eat rice, soup, chicken, fish, pork, everything very yummy, and then i got stomachache, then i go pang sai, then i used up 2 packets of tissue, the tissue is the Scottex ones and it's really nice... yadda yadda yadda).
Me blog is fabulous .... but nothing interesting or special really... Question: He ACTUALLY likes my blog? And how the hell did he manage to find the connection? *play with blonde hair
Secondly, does that mean that guy actually like my blog and what I wrote (which is BORING: refer to abovementioned point) more than my look, my flawless complexion, my killer smile and my ... ahem... washboard abs? I know I have always said that my personality is my best attribute, but hey, it's a gay web personal, give some credit to my physical attributes, will ya? Now I am offended.
Thirdly, and most importantly, since when does it become OK to cross the lil invisible boundary between blogging, web personals and reality?
I have always thought that it would be odd to know the other bloggers in person. Yes, I must admit I may be a lil curious about how the fellow bloggers look like, especially bloggers such as Datin (I am curious how a witty Datin looks like, and if she is really a Datin) and Shigeki (simply because he is ... err... Japanese), and maybe if they are what they potray themselves to be in their blog. Mere curiousity. Do I really want to meet someone who reads my blog? Maybe not.
Bloggers should remain their anonymity... unless of course their entire blog is only about them pang sai-ing, having a good hair day, or the entire blog is not about expressing themselves but pleasing the audience (which I have tried really really hard, but failed miserably). Once the anonymity is lost, I really think it will affect the "freedom of speech". E.g. now I cannot openly criticize some oversized diva who is the third best selling female artist of all time in US, even with the boost from her latest "critically acclaimed" album. Unless of course they are close friends who are "allowed" to read your blog (e.g. in my case, Wingedman -- yes, more links to you, you traffic whore; AJ; WJ; Darn Ed and especially Kitty), who should be able to handle the truth (especially Kitty... again). =)
Call me conservative, but i think there is an unspoken rule here... there should be no intersection between blogging and the real world. In the bloggin world, I shall have a right to rant, moan, whine, brag and talk about me-me-me-me-me all the time, without looking bad or having that reflected on me in person. And please... leave comments here, if any, and not on my web personal. Unless of course you look like Brad Pitt or some hot latino porn stars... if you are, please leave your contact particulars wherever and I will still be more than happy to meet you in person. And yes, I am still shallow.
You're insinuating that I'm hot
But these goodies boy, are not
Just for any of the many men that's tryn'a get on top
No, you can't call me later
And I don't want your number
I'm not changin' stories
Just respect the play I'm callin'
Duff! feat. Ciara & Petey Pablo
posted by Duff! at 8:59 am
8 Comments:
I read your blog and really think we should hook up! Lol! But the part I really really like the most was
"Thirdly, and most importantly, since when does it become OK to cross the lil invisible boundary between blogging, web personals and reality?"
why because it sounds like something I, the all knowing (apparently very zen) and keen AJ would ask. Dammit! Blogs are blogs... leave the comments here... P.S I'm actually a confused butch mother of 2 children... :P
11:19 am
I liking you! I thinkyou hot! Can fren? you writing the england so good also. so smart it dangers!!
2:52 pm
hihihi duff are hard men, jie jie like it much! aiya! Asian Beauty and any more! hihihihi
3:46 pm
The writing is hot.. and the description of the abs even hotter. Certainly not surprised that you got picked up :)
Paul
8:03 pm
Honey, there's a reason WHY you are always everybody's no 1!
"Pop sensation Duff tops The Billboard 200 this week with a greatest hits collection, despite having only released two studio albums. "Most Wanted" (Hollywood) sold 208,000 copies in the U.S., according to Nielsen SoundScan, sending Staind's "Chapter V" (Elektra/Atlantic) to No. 7 with a 59% fall to 76,000 after its chart-topping debut last week.
"Wanted" includes remastered and remixed versions of Duff hits like "So Yesterday" and "Metamorphosis," along with four new tracks, some of which the singer co-wrote with boyfriend Joel Madden of Good Charlotte. New single "Wake Up" is the No. 1 most-played track on Radio Disney."
10:35 pm
Hi!
I ran into your site as a friend of mine told me this post. :-) I think your writing is fantastic. It's far better than mine (obviously)
Well, for your info, my friends who have known me for somet time tell me "That's so you" every once in a while about my blog entries. So there is that. :-) But I don't really talk about me, me, me, all the time. It's just my insight about something. :-) I am on my way to fabulous abs but I don't talk about them yet as I don't have them yet. :-)
Happy blogging!
11:12 pm
Honey, can u come over here now, cos i need to slap u!
Firstly, I am sure u have a pic in ur profile and u r his type.
The he like ur blog part was just utter bullshit... eventhough, it's er.... a nice blog... hehe.
That's y i hate blind dates... y destroy the illusion?
2:47 pm
To AJ: Yes Jane, not forgetting i am their godfather too.
To Will: Yes, me wholesome beauty. :P
Savante/ Paul: Yes, I am hot. So hot I could melt the sun... Awwww baby...
Furong / Kit: Don't be jelez. I am hot hot hot. My boobs are still perky.
Shigeki san: Thanks for dropping by. I think your blog is far more interesting and fabulous than mine, and your writing is superb. In case you don't already know, I have been posting comments on your blog on and off, but without linking it to my own. BTW, it's ok to talk about you you you you you in your blog. We love reading it. :)
Jee Jee: sharrdup. :P
11:38 am
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